Sunday, January 23, 2011

Light your torch, sharpen your pitchforks!

I am a Baby Wise mom.

When Noah was a few months old I remember lamenting to another dear mommy friend the trouble I had with getting Noah to nap in his crib during the day. Evenings were great... but he was not napping well at all. This brilliant mother introduced me to the ways of Dr. Garry Ezzo and his hordes or adoring Baby Wise fans. 

While I never purchased the book when Noah was still an infant, I did practice a lot of the advice based on what my friend had told me and what I had read online. I was not a full blown BW mama, but was pretty darn close. 

In case you can't tell from this title, Baby Wise is a very controversial technique to follow. Some parents find it cruel. The main premiss is that it is a parent lead schedule, not a baby lead schedule. Meaning you feed based on a schedule that you set, not when the baby demands it. This is all to establish a routine of Eat. Play. Sleep. which is supposed to be the backbone of raising a happy, healthy baby.

Some people feel that it is cruel to withhold feedings from an infant who is screaming for more. I did not start BW until Noah was at least 6 months old, so I can not speak of the infant feeding schedule, but as far as the schedule for a 6 month old goes, I knew he was getting adequate nutrition and his needs were being met. This helped with so many breastfeeding issues, I can not even being to list or describe... it was just a miracle what a little routine did for our lives!  

Don't even get me started on the cry it out method. Yes, you let your child cry it out at times, it is called sleep training. You want your child to sleep at the appropriate times and be awake at the appropriate times. Often, when old enough, a child will cry some because they are not used to a sudden change in habits. Again, I did a modified version of this that seemed to work for Noah. Now, I have a 2 year old who happily goes to bed awake, needing only his night time routine and a kiss goodnight from me. He is secure in himself and his ability to drift off to sleep on his own. 

There is also something that comes to play here; mothers intuition. Of course if I just KNOW my child has been left wanting, I certainly won't stick to the advice from pages on a book, I will follow my own instincts! And I know his cries... if he needed me, I was there in a second. If he was simply letting me know he was unhappy I put him down, well that is OK, he is entitled to his opinion;-)

I just got a copy of the Baby Wise book in the mail today. I can not wait to dive right on in and become the empowered mother that knows how to anticipate her child's needs, therefore resulting in one happy, well rested and well feed baby! But I have to say, I will just be using this as a guide; no Doctor or Professor can write a book that better understands my child's needs more than me. I think that is what a lot of parents forget today... you have the biological coding for knowing what your child needs! You just have to know how to listen to it. And hopefully, with the guidance from this great book, I will be even more prepared for Baby Rodenhizer #2.

Anyone else Baby Wise? 


  1. I've never heard of it, but it sounds exactly what I've done with all my kids. I just took great advice from my mother and aunts and all the other mothers before me and did what came naturally. I think I turned out pretty well and I think my kids are doing great so far too! There is a lot to be said for "good old fashioned - pre-1960's parenting"! :)

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